Working with teams and individuals puts me in a privileged position to observe the positive and negative behaviours that stop us from reaching our goals.
A wonderful pre retiree spoke up loudly in the middle of a team offsite I was facilitating recently and said….
“I’ve just realised I’m a pain in the backside in a group. I have spent my whole career derailing the team process.”
We all laughed.
Truth be told, he had spent his career being difficult and behaving in a way that was quite contrary to the vision and values he held for himself.
It got me thinking about how many times I have heard people say things like…
“I like him one on one but in the team he’s so difficult.”
“She is completely different when other people are watching”
I think we all need to ask ourselves these questions every day:
As the new ways of working require us to be participants in many teams with varying roles and levels of responsibility these questions are more important than ever.